Taming the Tongue – Hasty Words
2 December 07
· James 3:2-8 - “The tongue is a fire..”
· Our words and speech are containers – they release death or life wherever we direct them.
· People ‘hear’ the words but are ‘impacted’ by the spirit they are spoken in.
· Our body, soul and spirit are all impacted by spoken words.
· Previously: Lying words, Gossip, Put Down words, Empty words.
· Today: “Hasty Words” – “I wish I had never said that!”
· Hasty = irritated, impatient, thoughtless, rash, done quickly without thought of impact.
· Proverbs 29:20 - “Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool that him”.
2. Hasty Words Have Bad Consequences:
Moses’s hasty words and actions cost him his leadership opportunity.
His failure to respond properly cost him his physical health.
3. Unresolved Anger Opens the Door to Demons:
· Ephesians 4:26-27 - “Be angry but do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your anger, neither give place to the devil”.
- anger is a strong emotion – It is ok to feel angry.
- Anger that is not resolved properly leads to sin.
- Anger needs to be dealt with the same day – before going to sleep.
- Anger unresolved will create a door for demons.
· Proverbs 25:28 - “He that has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down”.
· Genesis 4:4-8 - Cain was very angry and his fell.
- Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him.
· Cain had strong unresolved feelings of anger.
· Cain was warned that sin would come as a result of unresolved anger.
· Proverbs 29:22 - “an angry man stirs up strive and a furious man abounds in transgression (to rebel and react”).
· Anger = strong violent feelings of reaction at some perceived injustice.
· Anger has various levels of intensity.
· Smouldering, brooding on injustice.
= often appears as a dark scowl on face, moodiness, sulking.
· Anger that seeks revenge or punishment – lashes out to hurt or wound.
· Intense explosive reaction, destructive expressions.
· Examples: Tantrums, shouting, stomp feet, slam door, yell, phone hung up.
Throw things, break things, hissy fit”, hit things, bad tempered.
· Response: People tend to “accept it” …. “Just me” (minimize it)
People tend to “excuse it” …. “Not my fault, can’t help it”.
People tend to “deny” ….”I am not angry”.
4. Unrestrained Anger releases a Spirit of Murder and Death:
The Root of Anger:
i) Blocked Goal - I have a right to get my way, what I want.
ii) Badly Treated - I have a right to be treated fairly.
iii) Injustice - I have a right to just treatment.
When anger is out of proportion to the event there is probably many
unresolved ‘injustices” that have accumulated.
5. How to Handle your Anger:
· The example of Jesus:
- 1 Peter 2:21-23 - He committed himself to him who judges right.
- 1 Peter 4:19 - commit your souls to Him in doing good.
· Key issue is one of ownership and personal rights.
1) Admit the feelings 2) Create space to process
3) Let – energy out constructively 4) Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal root
5) Surrender rights to God 6) Look for constructive ways to
Address issues – Do Good!
· Don’t feed of their anger or react to it.
i) Speak quietly, touch arm.
ii) Ask questions to understand the person.
iii) Withdraw – boundary abusive controlling behaviour.
iv) Confront at appropriate time to obtain changes in the behaviour.