Prov. 4:23  Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life.

·      Heart = core of your being - whatever captures/defiles heart affects all your life.

·      Keep = 5341 = Guard, protect, watch over what enters, influences, develops within.

·      Marriage in will of God = commitment of man and woman to give heart to each other.

·      God’s law of oneness activated: 1)2 people involved in sexual intimacy

                                                          2)2 people lower walls of heart, share treasures




·      1 Cor. 6:16:18  Sexual sin - only sin that brings outside influences into body.

·      “Two become One” - sexual sin opens door for life of one person to enter another.

·      No other sin does this - sexual sin opens your life to another person and connects.

·      Ro.1:27 - Homosexual sin.  “Receiving in themselves the recompense of their error”.

·      Consequences of sexual sin not only outward - they enter into person’s being.



i)              Pornography – Pictures become imbedded in mind “alive”, thoughts replay over.

ii)             Divorce – Person keeps ‘remembering’ spouse and longings, struggles arise.

iii)            Adultery – Person secretly battles with memories, longings – hinder intimacy.

iv)           Encounters – Person remembers, dreams, fantasies about past partners.

v)            Molestation – Person feels confused, longs for intimacy, unwanted memories.


§  God’s word warns us – sexual sin opens life to receive within self the sexual sins committed.

§  Person is defiled by these encounters – unable to give self to spouse.

§  Spouse feels hidden walls, blocks, defilement – presence of others.


2 Cor. 7:1  Let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of flesh and spirit.


§  Filthiness = stain, defilement.

§  Our responsibility to recognise defilement and to deal with it.

§  Removing defiling forces opens way for blessing God to flow.


Ps. 119:9  “Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way?  By taking heed unto your Word”.




1 Jn 1:6-9


§  Walk in the light = 1) Fellowship;  ii) Cleansing.

§  Walk – lifestyle how you conduct your life.



1 Jn 1:9  If we confess our sins – he is faithful and just to forgive and to cleanse.


§  We can forgive each other but only God can cleanse our heart.

§  Confess is more than just saying “I am sorry”.

§  Confess = Homologeo = to speak the same thing that God speaks.

=    To agree with, to come into complete and full agreement with God.

=    To let go all excuses, reasons, attachments we have to sin.

=    To admit sin and to take on His way of viewing sin.

§  Results can be immediate but for most it is a process.


1.            Agreement with God (1 Jn.1:9)


Jer. 3:13  Acknowledge your iniquity that you have transgressed against the Lord and scattered your ways to strangers under every green tree.


§  Acknowledge = to know by experience, intimate (Gen. 4:1;  Prov. 3:5)

§  Transgressed = to break away from just authority, to rebel.

§  Scattered ways = disperse, scatter the course of your life.

§  Green Tree = Asherah – pole that was worshipped as source of life, fertility.

- Idolatry and sex sin = pride and idolatry to self.

§  Complete and full agreement with God, confession of sin against Him.

§  Forgiveness is immediate but cleansing may take time.


2.         Grieving/Mourning over Sin (2 Cor. 4:2)


§  Problem with saying “I’m sorry” = How deep, genuine is sorrow?

§  Sorry for the mess?  Sorrow over sin and its destruction?

§  People must attach pain to sin rather than pleasure, longing.

§  Meditate on the Cross = suffering Christ and how He loved you.

§  Allow the Holy Spirit to convict of sin produce grief, tears of repentance.

§  Lingering pictures, vision, longings = heart not yet fully cleansed.


3.    Break All Attachments (2 Cor. 4:2)


§  Renounce – to speak off, disown.

§  Renounce – (ungodly soul ties and inner vows).

§  Release – forgiveness – hatred, bitterness, keep door to life open.

Forgiveness (from heart) is vital part of cleansing.

§  Heb. 12:15 Bitterness defiles.


4.         Separation (1 Pet. 4:1-4)


§  Distance self from previous partner.

§  Eliminate contact/photos etc.

§  Build a wall in heart so no sharing.


5.         Confront Evil Thoughts (2 Cor. 10:4)


§  First frame thinking

§  Make thoughts prisoner of war.

§  Focus thoughts elsewhere.


N.B. May need support and accountability during the process of cleansing and inward heart attitudes addressed.  Cf 1 Jn. 2:11.