HOW TO HANDLE FRUSTRATION

e.g      

- Road Rage

- “Falling down”

Ezra. 4:4-6      -           Hired counsellors against them to frustrate their purpose.

Frustrate          =          6565 Breakup, disappoint, cause efforts to be blocked or

hindered.

· Everyone has moments or seasons of frustration.

· Frustration      

- Feeling of being hindered, barrier to accomplishing your goal, blocked

- Can be person, thing, machine, relationship, circumstance.

- Feeling that something or someone is holding me back.

· Need to learn how to handle frustration – it will come to you!

Phil 4:10-13     Paul

· Learned           =          acquired ability to handle frustrations and obstacles.

· Paul experienced opposition continually to his work and ministry.

· E.g: shipwreck; riots; false accusations; stoning; demonic opposition; prison.

· E.g: 1 Thes. 2:18 “I would have come but Satan hindered us” 1465 = impede, detain.

· Content           =          satisfied to point where not disturbed by situation or circumstances.   Lit     =          to raise a barrier that wards off.

· Know how       =          has learned how to live in good and bad.

· Instruction       =          “Learn the secret” of handling every situation.

NB       Frustration is not external but has its root on the inside.

Frustrating people/things/circumstances – won’t affect you unless you permit

it to.

External circumstances trigger something that is within.

Cause of Frustration

1. Inability to accept self way God made you – angry, life dealt bad.

2. Reluctance to deal with things from past – accumulated, anger, e.g. childhood; failure; sin; mistakes – haven’t faced, running.

3. Refused to deal with sin – things that know are not will of God.  .e.g. present habit; attitude; e.g. anger; bitterness – continued reaction to people, uptight;

fear – trying to control.

4. Perfectionism – trying to be in control of life, people, circumstances – Goals always out of reach – frustration.

· Changing the circumstances doesn’t make any difference.

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How People respond to Frustration

· Feel powerless – angry reaction at self and others

· Blame or accuse others

· Attempt to control or manipulate circumstances.

· Try to escape – withdraw

e.g. doctor – something wrong with me/need something to perk me up/dependent.

Is 14:27           Lord has purposed – who can frustrate, turn him back.

· Some periods of frustration are deliberately permitted by God.

· Why God frustrates us?

1. Bring deeper relationship

2. Develop your character

3. Get your attention – something hadn’t thought of.

· Sense of restlessness, frustration can’t quite put finger on.

· Sent to deal with area hadn’t thought of

Direct you to go where would not have gone.

· How to Handle Frustration

Phil. 4:13         “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

· Not            =          can do anything want to.

· =                can do all God wants for me

· Strengthen            =          enduomai to empower, enable, make strong

1. Look Inside            -           anything to face?        To change?

2. Look to the Lord    -           what trying to say?      - listen

- can’t make God hurry up – must wait on him and trust him to lead, direct as surrender.

- Acknowledge his love care personal interest.

- Surrender to him and allow him to direct.

- Express gratitude to him for working it out.